I wish you could be there to watch what happens when I coach a person who has been targeted in a bullying incident. It would change your view of humanity.
My Third Way process allows the person targeted to choose a solution to their problem.
Why? Well, most importantly, because their solutions work to stop the bullying.
You also need to understand that these people feel powerless. Giving them choice gives them back their power.
Try to imagine: I am sitting and talking to a child, or teen, or adult. They have been verbally harassed, or sexually assaulted, or physically beaten, or their reputations ruined online. Scary stories.
It comes time to pick a solutions. Do you know what they choose time and time again?
It is beautiful, and awe inspiring, and humbling.
They use their heart to reach someone who seems heartless…. Because they know - their abuser’s is just hurting, and all they needs is to be seen and to connect to someone else.
In that moment of connection, you wouldn’t believe what happens:
The person bullying backs down, chooses to end the harassing, cries, asks for forgiveness…
And the person targeted?
A new leader is born. One with a big heart and strong voice. The kind of leader that this world needs.
Kathleen is an anti-bullying specialist, a conflict coach, a teacher, mom, wife, daughter, sister, friend...