It is SO easy to snap, to punish, to get angry when our kids are unkind... We were raised to believe that punishment will teach our kids "the lesson" to not bully again.
But, it doesn't seem to work.
Instead, I suggest to parents and educators to get themselves into the mindset of the 4C's when they have to talk with their children or students when there has been an issue.
The 4C's are: coach, calm, caring & curious.
If we can stay loving and non-judgemental, the TRUE story can come out. And when it does - we can solve it.
Usually, when the root issue is resolved, bullying ends.
Let's remember our little people need to learn how to BE, and that includes how to be KIND. It is up to us to help them learn those lessons.
Kathleen is an anti-bullying specialist, a conflict coach, a teacher, mom, wife, daughter, sister, friend...