"Lucky" vs "unlucky" kids

Look at the behaviours under "unlucky kids"? They are unlucky, because the way that they are showing discomfort is through behaviours that close our hearts.⁠
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Lucky kids? They cry, they stall, they cuddle in... And, we easily love them.⁠
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Why is this so profound for me? Because I have worked with these "unlucky kids" for years - both as kids and teens who bully, but also those who get picked on and explode.⁠
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What do I see behind my closed door once they feel safe? Tears, shame, discomfort... and mostly - a willingness to change.⁠
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What do they feel from society? That they are "bad" at their cores.⁠
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Most importantly - we need to understand that these unlucky kids will NEVER change when we punish or isolate them. They are lacking SKILLS to handle things better.⁠
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So - the next time a child, teen or adult explodes? Take a deep breath, and open that big heart of yours. Find out what's going on - stay curious - and THAT is what they need..