How to stop participating in conflict

What does this look like when it comes to bullying?⁠
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It looks like developing confidence, and love, and compassion, and boundaries.⁠
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It looks like parents, teachers, and other caregivers teaching and modelling conflict management skills to their young people.⁠
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It looks like someone bullying, and their targets choosing not to pick up the pain that they are trying to give away.⁠
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It looks like a classroom, a school, a workplace, and a family that does not give power to people hurting others.⁠
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It looks like adults and friends, parents and teachers, managers and administrators looking beyond the behaviour and trying to find the root of the problem.⁠
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It looks like putting our judgements aside and choosing to find the reason for someone's aggression. It could be pain that someone is feeling - or, a conflict management tool that they are lacking. It looks like healing that pain.⁠
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We don't have to play this bullying game. There are "outs" all around us. It's up to us to pick them up and believe that they can work.⁠
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Only THEN will we no longer be participating.⁠