What does this look like when it comes to bullying?
It looks like developing confidence, and love, and compassion, and boundaries.
It looks like parents, teachers, and other caregivers teaching and modelling conflict management skills to their young people.
It looks like someone bullying, and their targets choosing not to pick up the pain that they are trying to give away.
It looks like a classroom, a school, a workplace, and a family that does not give power to people hurting others.
It looks like adults and friends, parents and teachers, managers and administrators looking beyond the behaviour and trying to find the root of the problem.
It looks like putting our judgements aside and choosing to find the reason for someone's aggression. It could be pain that someone is feeling - or, a conflict management tool that they are lacking. It looks like healing that pain.
We don't have to play this bullying game. There are "outs" all around us. It's up to us to pick them up and believe that they can work.
Only THEN will we no longer be participating.
Kathleen is an anti-bullying specialist, a conflict coach, a teacher, mom, wife, daughter, sister, friend...