There's been an interesting dialogue online recently about whether bullying can actually end without physical violence.
My thought? It can ABSOLUTELY end without violence. I see it with my clients 100% of the time.
But, here's the thing, the way to do it is by playing a completely new game. Instead of choosing to Power Over the bully (using BIGGER threats, acts of violence, fear or manipulation) or Powering Under (walking away, ignoring, avoiding, or hiding) we can Power With.
A person bullying is looking to make you scared. When you either lose your temper with them (scared) or walk away with your head lowered (scared) they get the jolt of power they were looking for.
Instead, I want you to consider what it might be like for you to be brave in the face of their assaults? Hard. I know, I get it. Keep reading, I think you'll see how!
Powering With means that you are being BOTH strong & kind. When we meld those two things together, we stop playing the bully's game. Stopping the game means that you stop giving them power. Stopping them from stealing your power means they get nothing from you...
And.... You guessed it... The bullying ends.
I see it time and time again.
Check me out in my bio to learn more about HOW to find this elusive Power With - I promise, it'll be worth your time!
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Kathleen is an anti-bullying specialist, a conflict coach, a teacher, mom, wife, daughter, sister, friend...