Feeling grateful for this big guy today.
A year ago, he was transitioning into a pretty tough role - big brother. We know this can be rough for first-borns, but, he had double the challenge because we gave birth to TWINS. He used to get all the attention, and these shiny cute babies were getting in the way of that, big time. Life was hard.
But now, he has embraced his big brother status like a champ. In this photo, he set up a "bed" on the floor so he and his little brother could pretend to nap, and then pop their heads up and giggle to each other. He loves teaching them skills, words, making them laugh, and starting some sort of loud sound that the other two will join in on. He doesn't always like his big-bro-role, but, more often than not asks for help when he needs it.
Today, I took a break from work and peeked out at the 3 kids playing in our courtyard. His little brother threw his hat on the ground. He ran over, picked it up, and put it back onto his head and said "you need to keep this on, you will get a sunburn!" and took off to play.
Imagine if we ALL transitioned into less-than-optimal situations this way? He has shown us that we SHOULD scream, yell, and cry about the things that make us sad and angry. He let it all out - felt all the feels - and processed what was hard. And then, he had the space to flex, change, and find his purpose in this new situation. The result? A pretty joyful little guy who gets to feel important (because he is!) as a big brother. So cool eh?
Kathleen is an anti-bullying specialist, a conflict coach, a teacher, mom, wife, daughter, sister, friend...